Meanwhile IVF is north of $25k…

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    Police ultimately tracked down a “contract” signed by both the runaway parents and one would-be buyer, who was identified by authorities as Cody Martin.

    It read: “I Darien Urban and Shalene Ehlers are signing our rights over to Cody Nathaniel Martin of our baby boy for $1,000 on 09/21/2024.

    “Disclaimer: Alter signing this there will be no changing yall two’s minds and to never contact again.”

    Literally a trailer park boys episode. I can picture what kind of campground this is.

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    Honestly though, the baby is better off without those parents. I’m of the mind that we shouldn’t shame / prosecute them, since that would actually discourage other horrible parents like this from giving up their babies.

    Granted, abortion would be a much better route, but small steps.

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    The perpetrators look blood related in the first degree. They have the same lips/nose/eyebrows/jawline. Maybe they have matching his-n-hers fetal alcohol syndrome.

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      I’m not saying they are twins, but they could unlock each others phones….

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    Would it be unethical to oblige for the sake of getting the child to safety?

    I’m not saying I would do it (I don’t have that kinda cash) but like wouldn’t that be the ethical choice if you could? Save this child from parents who clearly aren’t capable/willing to raise it properly?

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      With how the police are? You politely decline the offer and call the police while watching the couple from a distance. They’ll likely to arrest you for human trafficking just to pad out the arrest statics.

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    If I saw these parents, I would have offered to adopt the kid just to get the poor thing away from bad parents.

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        I normally feel sus for things. Like, was the buyer trying to eat the baby or something? Even if the buyer initially intentions was bad, I felt like the buyer at the very least got the baby away from bad parents and maybe gave this kid a different path in life.

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    North of $25k… And that’s for the first round.

    Because here’s the thing, every body is different. At first they go with the “average IVF woman’s” level of hormones to produce as many eggs as possible. Will it work for you? Who knows! They check blood work every week, and then at the end of the cycle they surgically remove anything that looks matures and try to fertilize. Say 12 eggs are retrieved, maybe 7 are successfully fertilized. Then they incubate for a few weeks - maybe 4 make it through and are candidates for surgical implant, (if so, you’re lucky and they’ll try one or two max for implant at a time). Or maybe all of them don’t make it.

    But if you don’t have any viable options, well we try for round two with slightly tweaked hormones. Did round two not work? Time for round three with slightly different hormone levels/timing. (We learned so much about your specific body chemistry!)

    Even after all of that, say you get a successful implantation - you’re now pregnant. All costs for prenatal care, hospital birth - that’s an add on to the $75k you’ve spent for IVF. And because humans are weird, there’s no guarantee with IVF that you or the baby will survive and be healthy!