Some of the many species Jeffrey Combs has evolved into:

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      Hot tip, change HIS last name prior to the wedding and she gets the name change free.

      I know a couple that waited until after the wedding to do that and the husband changed his name, then the wife was given the option of keeping her old name, or switch to his old name.

      She ended up having to go through the entire name change process without the benefit of the auto-name flip from the marriage.

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        I’m pretty sure both of us had the option of changing our names when we got married and when we got divorced.

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        Warning: Taken from decades-old memories of things that I wasn’t involved in or paying much attention to! Anyway…

        In Virginia a man sued the state like 30 years ago because they wanted to charge him to change his name, when a woman could change her name free when she got married. The state could either have charged women or made it free for all. They chose the later.

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      I’ve known other people who do that.

      I just feel like any name change that you don’t need (i.e. you’re transitioning) is just more bother than it’s worth.

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        Yeah, that’s what we are running into. The marriage forms here in NC make it simple to take the husband’s last name as part of the process, but any other kind of change requires a lot of crazy, expensive, and time consuming steps.

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    I only recently found out he was Brunt as well as Weyoun. And had no idea about the others. (I still haven’t gotten around to Enterprise.) What a talented guy!

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    There are tons of reasons why one might not want to change their name. At a minimum you have to send a form to the state, update any licenses you have, contact your banks, your insurance, your place of work… Best case scenario it’s an annoying hassle to deal with.

    Was I appreciative when my wife took my name? Sure. But that’s mostly because we also share the same first name so it’s hilarious to share the same last name. But I told her many times before we got married she didn’t need to do it. I never expected that out of her.

    If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

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      If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

      ‘Why should I have to change? He’s the one who sucks!’ -Michael Bolton

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      You both share three same first name as well? That sounds very confusing for your peers

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      It seems reasonable for each partner to continue to use their original family name if they want to, even if it’s only the husband’s name on the marriage certificate.

      If you go down the legally hyphenated name path, after a few generations, this could potentially devolve to family names like: Jones-Smith - Smythe-Johns - Longbottom-Allcock - Junior III (etc).

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      Yeah my wife has agreed that taking my name would be nice, but it’s a pain in the ass. And omg yes I love your attitude. Part of why I wanted to share a last name is so we can be Ms. and Mrs. Lastname.

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    What the fuck makes my name any better than hers? Fuck my name. I don’t even want it.

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          Did you try taking discommendation, being expelled from the empire, brain wiping your brother and only living relative, and impressing her in combat during shared captivity in an enemy camp? If it works for worf…

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            Oh, how progressive! Why, back in my day, we just thrilled at the excitement of folding laundry and baking pies all day. But you, dear, you’ve truly broken boundaries. Imagine—your wife letting you take her last name and do whatever you want! Why, next thing we know, she might let you wear trousers too.

            Give her my regards; she sounds like quite the visionary!

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    There are lots of reasons for women to keep their maiden name. In the case of my wife, she had two good ones:

    1. She didn’t want to become disassociated from her scientific publications.

    2. She didn’t want to complicate or redo any immigration paperwork.

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      My ex took my last name, because he had siblings with children and my family name would have died with me. It was a gift to my father that his* grandson would carry the family name forwards. And no, that wasn’t a red flag – we were married for 30 years.

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      1. Who cares

      I’ll admit when I was in my early 20s, it was a point of contention with one girl I was dating. I was young and stupid, my mom took my dad’s name, etc.

      But by 30, wiser, less prone to drama, I was solidly in the “who cares, do what makes you happy” crowd.

      My wife kept her last name. It’s easier, and less confusing for her clients and networking.

      Grow the fuck up. Stop being so needy and insecure. It’s a bad look.

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      So is it a red flag, then, that my husband did not take my last name? And if it’s a gay couple, which one is complaining?

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      I’m more surprised that he took the time to use an accent mark. Either a copy-paste to make sure he got it right, or lots of extra time changing his keyboard back and forth.

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        If they’re not on their phone (which they probably are as others have pointed out), maybe they’re just a Pokémon fan. I memorized the keyboard combo for the accented “é” about 25 years ago because of this. (Alt+130)

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          I never interacted with Pokemon (i think I was a few years too old for it) - but I used to have to write a lot of international names down for work related reasons, and therefore eventually had all the accented letter win-alt-key codes memorised - though I can’t really remember them all now (I’ve used Linux only for about 15 years).

          I don’t think I’d remember many now - for example, I was convinced é was ALT+0233, but I could easily be mixing it up with one of the others.

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          Most people use twitter on their phone. I tend to assume everyone on twitter is on a phone. The vertical screenshots give it away.

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    I love everything he’s done, but going back and watching Enterprise was great because he’s SO great in that show everytime he shows up.

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      As someone who slept on enterprise for a long time, 100% agree. Everytime I see antennae I know I’m about to be in for a good time, and I’m just a stupid pink skin.

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    I almost kept my maiden, but now it’s an additional middle name. I love my maiden name, but I changed my name to my husbo’s because it has a Z in it and I was super stoked to have a Z in my signature. 😂I also like the way it sounds with my first name.

    Sometimes, it’s really that simple. My husband didn’t care either way when we discussed it. It was just a choice I made.

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    Women, don’t marry men who won’t take your name. That’s a wall of separation he wants to keep between you. It won’t be the only one.

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      I took my wife’s name when we got married. I hate my family and intended to change my last name anyway. Her family is awesome. It was an easy choice.

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        I plan on doing the same. My dad Americanized my family’s last name, and because my girlfriend is the same ethnicity as him, I plan on taking her name to undo the damage and go back to my roots.

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        I’m assuming you’re a man, and that’s great! I’m also taking my wife’s name but I’m a gay woman so it’s not as awesome lol

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          Yes, I am a man. I do just generally think it’s awesome that you’re getting married. I remember when that wasn’t allowed in the USA.

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      And don’t marry a man who insists you take his. That’s a wall of control he’s building around you and he won’t stop until he’s separated you from everyone and everything you love. Marry the man who accepts it’s your choice to decide, along with every other decision about yourself.

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        I’ve already found my Shaun of the Dead, it’s Simon Pegg; unfortunately though, he’s taken… and I’m a gay woman. In another lifetime perhaps, Simon!

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      I have some friends that got married and decided to merge their two last names and create a brand new last name. I thought it was a cool idea

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        That seems pretty common to me as a Californian. However two couples I know greatly regret this decision because they both had long names to start with and now they can’t fill out any forms successfully.

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    When discussing marriage with my girlfriend (now wife), she mentioned not wanting to change her name. I told her this wasn’t acceptable - I expected her to change her name. But she repeated not wanting to change her last name. I told her she misunderstood, I didn’t want her to change her last name, I wanted her to change her first name to “groupofcrows property”, she can keep her last name. She did not accept this. (Yes this was a real conversation, yes we have been married for 7 years, no she did not change her name)

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    Yet another conservative weakchin hiding behind a beard.

    They’re certainly going for a look right now.