Dang, this post needs a Fediverse equivalent to raisedbynarcissists.

You were raised by mindless people who constantly misused their time and money in ways that directly affected your daily life. Their anti-logical ways left you constantly neglected in some ways, despite the fact that they had the means to cover all your basic needs. This neglect was obvious to anyone who saw you day to day, but they blamed you because your family controlled many decisions that are normally left up to the kids.

That being said, you’re not asking about “everyone” as your title says, you’re asking about your family. Also, their words are complaining, but what they are doing is actually bragging. There is a high cultural value on being busy, and they’ve found ways to be VERY busy by having a literally insane way of life, with exhausting routines that are built around excess and waste.

Still, this is not a question for a broader audience, but a rant about one stubbornly insane family.

And the answer is, because they are more proud of their exhausting, difficult lives than you are proud of your planned, easy life.

edited to clarify and expand