Does your boss fish? If not, this might look disturbing to him.

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I hope something in that word salad helps.

It doesn’t come across through the frustration, but I love my wife very much. And if this is just how life is, I accept it. And I’m no fucking paragon of wise living, either. I’m just as hard to deal with as she is. I wouldn’t want to do this thing without her, but fuck if I know how to do it with her either, you know? Without her and the kids, I think I would only eat, sleep, work, and stare at pointless things. Maybe I need someone to tell me to get out of the fucking house and go to Barbados or wherever we’re going.

Good luck, man. I’m glad you’re in therapy. And just because I disagree with him… well he knows you and your situation a hell of a lot better than I do.

I relate to some of this. Probably more than I’d like to. I could vent and commiserate, but I won’t. I just wanted to address this:

I have to find a way to break through to her that it’s unfair without letting her make me the bad guy

I could be wrong, but I really believe what your therapist is suggesting here is impossible.

The two of you have adversarial positions here. Both of you see the situation you are in. She considers it and thinks seeing Taylor Swift is more important than having $3k (or whatever) more money. In your estimation it is not.

Do you have any objective, undeniable facts that, when added to what she already knows, will alter the balance for her? If you do, will she accept that they are objective and undeniable coming from you the “opposing party”?

That’s hard. One of the hardest things I’ve done is to disagree with my wife, and to truly believe she is wrong, and to accept that her viewpoint is correct and mine is wrong. And sometimes that’s the case (or it at least turns out just fine). But there is a lot of resentment when she is wrong.

Our oldest daughter got married last year. I knew we’d wind up doing some things for the wedding and paying for them. Maybe a few thousand dollars. In April of this year two things happened: I lost my job (and I remained unemployed for 5 months) and I discovered she had spent over 30k on the wedding. Our wedding cost under $500. Our credit cards were maxxed. Her dad gives us ~$10k per year of money he has to withdraw from his retirement but he can’t spend (he gives equally to all the siblings) and that was all spent on the wedding a year in advance.

5 months out of work drained my retirement to $0. I started working about 2 months ago. Our 15th wedding anniversary is next year. She wanted a trip I okayed ~$5k. She is spending ~$11k. (It’s a nice vacation and I did agree to it because I’m a fucking sucker for it and she has long held this to be an important anniversary.) Now she wants to spend $4k putting up permanent LEDs around the house. Night before last she was wondering why our phone bill was so high, so she goes to Verizon to look and 30 minutes later lets me know she bought a new phone. I asked what new features she’s looking forward to. And she gets pissed and says her phone is 3 models old and she wants a new one.

I lied about not venting, sorry. And you know… if everything works out great with this job, none of this shit will kill us. But meanwhile we’re spending $1600/year on a maxxed $5k credit card between interest, late fees (hopefully that should stop at least), and annual fees.

Anyway, all I have to do is just non-judgementally ask her reason for wanting a new phone and we fought for like 12 hours over it.

TL;DR There is no way she will hear a reasonable argument from you and see it as anything other than a manipulation of facts in order to prevail in the disagreement. You need a neutral third party or someone she respects and will listen to.

Trauma is a real thing. My wife’s mom died at like 59 years old, just after she retired and was looking forward to spending all the money my inlaws had saved over their lifetimes on travel and such. Now my wife thinks it’s critical that we live while we can because she isn’t going to live past 60.

Sometimes trauma needs to be assuaged, but other times it will lead someone to self-destructive behavior that feels like what they need to cope with their trauma.

I’m sorry for writing a book. I’m honestly not sure if I wrote it because I think something in there will help you, or because I just needed to get it off my chest.

“We named the dog ‘Indiana’!”

I’ll be curious to see all the “tells” they manufacture to insist it’s AI.

Assuming there is a piss tape, I don’t think it will see the light of day unless he really manages to disappoint daddy Putin. Maybe if he loses the election, but I sort of feel like there wouldn’t be much point in that case.

I don’t think they allow you to abort your husband.

I want to downvote this answer because of how it makes me feel. But… yeah.

No but I’ll have to look them up.

I think it was Luxure? I think it’s French. I think some of the movies might be dubbed into English while others are filmed in English? Anyway thought it was pretty well done. It’s not winning any Oscars but I was never taken out of any scenes by bad acting. I was able to find at least a scene or two on PH.

I want to say it’s mostly like adventurous couple sexy time, but it could be that’s just what appealed to me. I was looking for things I thought would appeal to my wife and I. She’s not super into porn but she did enjoy watching a couple scenes while I was… well navel gazing in a manner of speaking.

This is one of those things where home users just default to PC = Windows. But apps are all online now. Probably 99% of the time all people need is a browser. Yeah some people think they have to have MS Office or some other niche windows program, but I consider myself a power-user and the only apps I open on my PC are Games, Discord, IntelliJ, VSCode, and then maybe fool around with local AI stuff. Photos and stuff are usually on our phones, but they can also all be backed up to the cloud from a computer easily enough.

I’ve already switched over to Linux because all of that stuff already works. (Caveat: I also have a PS5 for most gaming).

Most people just need someone to install Linux Mint or whatever and they wouldn’t even notice the difference. The only thing really slowing Linux adoption is folks who don’t want to field support calls from their friends and family.

Similarly, at airports they had these alternating white and blue lights that would sweep the sky for miles around. When we were on the road at night I used to know where we were based on that. I loved it.

Definitely a bad look in this economy.

Or showing pinned posts at the top.

Even the serious stuff is funny if unintentionally so. Might as well lean in?

I mean I definitely miss the high concept porn of the 80’s but that’s been gone for a long time. Last one I saw was Pirates! and even that was mostly played for laughs.

It’s often painful to watch bad actors take the material too seriously, especially when it’s so ridiculous.

There is some serious fetish stuff. I can’t recommend any off the top of my head, but there’s a guy (producer? Always stars him) who makes some like serious psychological/dom/sub/poly movies that I think are well done for porn. Guess I could probably figure it out of there was interest but I think I found it on torrent by blind luck so not sure exactly where to look.

If it’s effective, it will only be for the wealthy. If it’s a mixed bag, the wealthy will decide who gets it. If it’s a placebo or nearly so, it’ll be everywhere and cheap.

See also anti-agathics and other life extensions.

I appreciate the tip.

Seems like someone felt really threatened by some boxes with a handful of words in them. It must suck to be that fragile.

I usually call them boards when I can’t remember the name “community”. There are lots of kinds of community. An instance might well be a community if you are browsing local. Board is shorter and my brain wants to use that word anyway.

I’m certain that video probably got a lot of likes from folks who didn’t get the irony which is probably why the algorithm associated you watching it with that crowd. (Also I’m really sus about the whole “joking about being a hateful prick” industry, but I’ll assume your assessment is spot on here.)