It seems that many women, even while acknowledging their own sexual fluidity, don’t want to date men who are sexually fluid.

From the article:

Sadly, the woman I briefly dated is not alone in her beliefs. In a survey of over 1,000 women, conducted by Glamour in 2016, 63% of women said they wouldn’t date a man who’s had sex with another man. (This isn’t just men who identify as bi. This includes all men who’ve experimented with another man, even if it only happened once!) Still, 47% of women said they’ve been attracted to another woman, and 31% of women have had a sexual experience with another woman.

NOTE: This is not the titular study but is used to establish context. The study can be found here: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15299716.2018.1563935?journalCode=wjbi20
If anybody happens to be able to find the fulltext please feel free to link it.

  • xantoxis@lemmy.one
    111·
    1 year ago

    The title’s message is not supported by the 2019 study.

    They found lower levels of agreement with the statements around attraction to mlm, but not zero. Just less than straight men. Unless you thought women held no homophobia at all, this isn’t even remotely surprising. It’s barely interesting. Meanwhile women who rated lower on homophobia preferred bi men.

    So date bi women. Or date gay men who, according to the survey, do not have the same biphobic prejudice.

    • spaduf@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
      4·
      1 year ago

      This is a great point regarding the title but I do not think it is particularly productive to simply say date groups without degrees of prejudice towards yourself. Even though this is pragmatic life advice that I subscribe to, the groups you’re talking about excluding make up the vast majority of potential partners and for those who have a hard time finding queer spaces to meet people the advice can be nearly impossible to follow.

      • xantoxis@lemmy.one
        3·
        1 year ago

        I agree, and you’re right: I’m being somewhat reductive about it. Yes, lots of people are going to struggle with finding a partner no matter what, and many will struggle to find a partner who isn’t straight in the environments where they live.

        Read my advice as: if you’re worried about this AND if you have a choice, you can improve your odds by dating people who are less homophobic. Honestly, if you think someone has any degree of homophobia, don’t fuck them. That goes for men or women. And sometimes you’ll get it wrong; that’s okay, keep trying.