• JackbyDev@programming.dev
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    4 months ago

    I’m in an (semi) open poly relationship now. I remember the first time I told my wife I needed some privacy because I was going to do some stuff with an online partner. Her face lit up. She was so excited. The same way someone would look at a close friend excited to gush about a new partner.

    It’s been amazing. There have been rough moments but that’s going to be the case in any relationship.

    This is so disgustingly cute, we were watching The Boss Baby with our partner and (major The Boss Baby spoilers, better look away) at the end Tim realizes that his parents’ love is wide enough for both him and The Boss Baby and, it was such a surreal moment. Watching this goofy movie with this moral that’s weirdly applicable to the situation we’re in.

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      4 months ago

      She was so excited. The same way someone would look at a close friend excited to gush about a new partner.

      That’s cute. I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost two years now but while she has had other partners our entire relationship, I’m only now trying to find another partner and truly trying to be poly myself. There’s been a part of my lizard brain that feels like I’m cheating on her, but she’s been super supportive and it’s really helped me stay at the grim task of getting back into the dating field.

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        4 months ago

        Just remember: cheating isn’t bad because you’re sleeping with other people, cheating is bad because you’re betraying the trust of your partner. If you’re open and honest about everything, you’re not cheating.

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        4 months ago

        Dating sucks. My wife was my second partner and we were together nearly 16 years by the time we opened things up. I’d forgotten how crazy dating is. It really unlocks a level of anxiety id forgotten about.