• Varyk@sh.itjust.works
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    3 months ago

    i was going to say “hey let a man pose”,but I’m living in a beach town right now and there’s no joke literally 100 people posing with selfies and photo shoots every afternoon, so I at least empathize with Everett here.

    and don’t worry, I am photobombing everyone to be Instagram model I can.

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      3 months ago

      I guess that means this comic was 100 years ahead of its time. Otherwise, this one seems a bit out of line to me too.

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        3 months ago

        a lot of these true comics are unexpectedly prescient.

        or maybe they’re just making me realize how close our problems are to those of a century ago

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            I don’t think inner rage is necessarily derived from the human condition so much as emotional investment in unrealistic expectations of momentary, uncontrolled external slices of culture and personality True or any human observes during a decontextualized fleeting instant.

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              Yeah, I think that’s part of it. I guess you’re right that it doesn’t HAVE to be part of the human condition, but making it otherwise takes a lot of work.

              Dukkha – “incapable of satisfying”,[web 4] “the unsatisfactory nature and the general insecurity of all conditioned phenomena”; “painful”.[29][31] Dukkha is most commonly translated as “suffering”. According to Khantipalo, this is an incorrect translation, since it refers to the ultimately unsatisfactory nature of temporary states and things…

              https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_Noble_Truths

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                I see no evidence for objective “truths” where human consciousness is concerned, but in this context, what I’m describing is closest to number 2, samudaya: (origin, arising, combination; “cause”): there is dukkha (unease, disbalance) when there is, or it arises simultaneously with, taṇhā (“craving,” “desire” or “attachment,” lit. ‘thirst’).

                anything you expect that does not occur exactly how you expect it upsets you only if you’ve already attached yourself emotionally, spiritually or any -ally to your presupposed outcome.

                Avoid the tendency for attachment.

                which does sound like a lot of work, but I don’t think it is.

                It’s just about going about thinking in the right way, or understanding how events unfold in a particular way.

                Supposing less is the key, since you’re never going to know enough to predict anything correctly enough with any kind of anxiety-soothing consistency.

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                  I was going to quibble about “no evidence for objective “truths” where human consciousness is concerned” but it’s an active area of research and I’m not up on the field. So instead:

                  Avoid the tendency for attachment.

                  which does sound like a lot of work, but I don’t think it is.

                  I guess if you’re sitting in meditation or working with a cognitive behavioral therapist then sure, there are plenty of known techniques. But when your family member’s dying and you’re just about losing your job and then some bozo almost kills you with his car, then it can be hard to avoid the tendency for attachment.

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                    avoiding attachment to preconceived outcomes doesn’t mean you can’t organically feel emotions.

                    if your family member is dying you can reel sad, and if a bozo near-hits you, feel free to scream “cunt” at the bad driver as they screech away if you live in the areas of the world where it’s cool to say that.

                    those emotions aren’t something you assumed the course of and committed yourself to ahead of time, they’re natural reactions to events that have occurred or are occurring.

                    What i, and it sounds like samudaya is referring to is the tendency to attach your own expectations to events external to and independent of you, which fosters the erroneous belief that what you think is happening is happening and is all that is happening because you are observing it or a party to it, like buying a sweater from a rude woman who doesn’t seem to like you at a flea market who you don’t understand is holding back her roiling frustration at having to part with her late husband’s favorite article of clothing but needs to make the mortgage next month.

                    or screaming at a football match on TV despite the players being physically removed from you, not being aware of you, never having met you or having any connection to you, and your enthusiasm or frustration not having an effect on the game or their play.

                    Why scream? you’ve emotionally attached yourself to what is going to happen and the generally false expectation that your team winning or losing affects your life and self in any way.

                    getting angry that a player lost or gained control of the ball doesn’t affect your life except in the predetermined emotional investment you’ve pinned to certain colors or designs or people you have no visceral and often passing relation to.

                    Similarly, True isn’t always reacting to these situations in some proper way, he’s lashing out in what he apparently assumes is “righteous” anger as a result of his own expectations of what the world “is”, how he understands the situations before him(he cannot) and the effect his actions will have(he canmot).

                    they are fun comics, but maybe that was the one day the man posing finally felt comfortable being in public, or the first day he brought his kid to the beach and was putting on a show for him, or remembering the first time he was brave enough to swim after his mom took him to the beach after his brother drowned eight months ago.

                    i like this comic, it’s common to try to smush and reform the world into a likeness we would rather see or can more easily understand, but the reactions of True and most of us most of the time aren’t reactions to what’s happening so much as reactions to your own personal expectations, assumptions and conclusions mistakenly and habitually applied to an external and independent reality that any individual, even one as large as True, is a very small, limited, barely aware part of.