A relationship is not a job or product, you don’t get them, you HAVE them WITH other people. People don’t have other people, although it is common to say so in colloquial language.

This is important and not petty, because language is like a sign post of beliefs and it is important for starting respectful relationships to believe that everyone involved is a person.

Now, with that knowledge, lemmy can help you, but it can also hurt or not help you.