I’d say it’s when they get angry when you tell them the impact their behavior is having on you, instead of actually trying to have a discussion and sort the problem out.
Or they get angry with you for enforcing your boundries.
My personal favorite is when they gaslight you about whose “fault” it was. Failing to recognize that boundaries were only enforced because of decisions they made.
I’d say it’s when they get angry when you tell them the impact their behavior is having on you, instead of actually trying to have a discussion and sort the problem out.
Or they get angry with you for enforcing your boundries.
Or they gaslight you about your boundaries…
My personal favorite is when they gaslight you about whose “fault” it was. Failing to recognize that boundaries were only enforced because of decisions they made.
“I didn’t even know I had this boundary until I met you so, yeah, it’s not my fault this is happening…”