I called some people I’m seeing partners, but got scolded by a friend because I guess partner means a relationship that’s more “serious”. My friend suggested calling them lovers.
I’m emotionally involved with all my people and I care about them. I just get an ick from labels and relationship ladders (abusive family).
I’m looking for a word that’s unassuming, but clearly says “I’m not single” so I can easily be honest with monogamous people.
Any suggestions? Lover sounds a little too much like cheating.
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Call them whatever you want. Your relationships your choice. There’s no need to gatekeep every little detail ffs.
Partner is great and is non-gendered (in English). You could also go for the classic or boyfriend / girlfriend or “I’m in a relationship” or significant other. They all work but you do you. If you feel like partner is best and you’re romantic interest is cool with that title - go for it.
I’ve used “date” for people I’m seeing but we haven’t had an explicit “what is the nature of our relationship?” conversation.
“I’ll bring my date Alex tomorrow”
“I’m dating two people, Alex and Ryan”
It can be a little clumsy in some cases but it has been helpful.
partners makes sense, I’m confused as to why your friend is caught up on the word rather than being generally happy for your wellbeing
if your partners are ok with them being called partners than it doesn’t matter what other people think as they aren’t in an intimate relationship with you
people gatekeeping for the smallest of things is really a waste of time IMO
I once panicked introducing a friend and said “lover”. Don’t think I could have made everyone involved more awkward if I had tried.
I like primary. Secondary sounds like you’re ranking people however.
Let me know if you figure it out. Not that I’m participating any longer, but I am curious.
Consorts?
Partner is the word.
If your friend thinks there’s a better word, ask them what it is.
If you feel like partner is the right word, then I’d back you up on that.
