NextCloud hosting, since I don’t trust myself to do it safely.
BitWarden, 50/50 for the value and to support them.
Tuta.io, for the custom domain and extra storage.
Addy.io (or SimpleLogin)

Nebula, if the LG app was available where I live/on my TV (yeah, the household wants to use a spytv).

Standing on the bus stop, so, uh the road? But that wouldn’t be useful without the buildings and all the activities in them that bring people here. Or since the room could be considered the general “outdoors”, oxygen, or stuff like that.

Also now I’m in the bus, so the driver.

Nobody likes people not accepting responsibility for their own actions. Duh.

At the same time, who am I to say that something isn’t or wasn’t as hard on someone as they say? Shouldn’t we believe people when they say a thing is a burden for them? Doubly so if we ourselves don’t have first-hand knowledge of it, such as poverty, or race, or gender?

Yes, I have a close friend who sometimes irritates me by how she keeps saying she can’t do X because Y, or failed at Z due to Q, but in the end her feelings are true and valid even if they seem irrational to me. And she’s so much more than that.

I, like most of us on Lemmy, live a better life than almost the entirety of the rest of human history.

I’m sorry, I’m sorry, the world and by extension you have been so kind to me and I turned out to be just this worthless waste of oxygen, my existence a net negative of epic proportions and yet I’m too cowardly to at least end this miserable experiment.

Life is full of wonders and joy and there’s so much more to enjoy!

Life is full of putting on a face and smiling and playing a well-adjusted individual and I’m so tired.

Welcome to depression-ville, population way too fucking many.

Ditto. Effing survival instinct.

I don’t know how the Play Store version does push notifications, but Molly, and I think the apk from their site, work just fine on degoogled phones without Google services.

I don’t remember what name it has, but missing it breaks push notifications on most “normal” apps. Many FLOSS ones are coded to have their own methods that don’t transmit data to Google, and it appears at least some versions of Signal do too.

My threat model doesn’t include state level actors taking an active interest in me, so for my purposes Signal would be secure enough, if only I got people to adopt even it.

We built our own civilization! With blackjack and hookers! And world class (or well above world class, since average world class tends to suck) cycling infrastructure!

Would have been great 20 years ago.

You mean this is not in addition to retirement income in some places? 🙀

European here, if my parents needed assistance I’d do my best to help them 100%. But that’s because they’re my parents, they can be thrifty, I know they’re not gambling addicts or spending it all on booze etc. Having to ask (not outright, but no longer strongly refusing my help or no longer dumping money on us at every opportunity to avoid inheritance taxes) would be an indicator that they’re already pretty desperate.

Lots of people aren’t as lucky regarding their parents.

spaghetti monster

But does it fly?

It’s not even limited to the US. In Finland it’s called “pilluralli”, “pussy-rally”, and the general associations are of 18-19-year-olds of lower socioeconomical class.

At least here, you don’t usually pay for private healthcare yourself, your insurance does. And because private healthcare can and does limit their services and usually avoids the most costly patient groups, insurance is cheap compared to the US (abt 500€/year for 42F), if you want it. US is in a league of its own in how much people end up paying for healthcare, and they have god-awful population level results to show for it.

Sure the wait times can be long, usually not years though. But what horrifies me is that there are rich countries where the wait time can be infinite for some people.

Same has happened here. While I am proud of the younger, more skittish one, it’s also an indication of the old matriarch diminishing. I’ll never be ready to lose her.

My 14-year-old cat with white ears has a wound that doesn’t seem to be healing on one of her ears. One vet visit and 5 days into a 7-10 day antibiotic salve treatment it hasn’t clearly shrunk. At least it hasn’t grown either, and apparently at least squamous cell carcinoma of the ears is slow to metastise. But still. 🙀

https://molly.im/ Especially the FOSS version. Need to manually add the repository though.

Ace Attorney (nostalgia). I’m not weird enough to be a witness, the perp, or the wrongfully accused. If I was the victim I’d obviously be screwed. If I was a defence attorney my clients would be screwed. If I was a judge everyone but me would be screwed. Payne seems to make an ok living as a prosecutor although he sucks at it, I could do that. Or I’d just be one of those weirdoes cheering in the gallery, or an unremarkable resident of Japanifornia, which would both be fine.

Oh hell no. A fumbled 1, shambling back into sweet death-death within moments, possibly dragging him with me.

Agreed and agreed. But an addendum regarding mattresses: No matter what the salespeople tell you, most mattresses with pocketed coil springs are pretty much the same apart from hardness, especially with a compensating mattress topper. Just get one that feels right to you, definitely don’t think that more expensive=better, mattress-wise.

More money advice: Most things come in two tiers worth purchasing: “nice” and “wow”.

“Nice” are the things experts deem good enough, or clothes-wise ones that you can see yourself actually wearing across multiple years, both durability- and appearance-wise. Affordable, and you like them. A useable placeholder, if you will.

“Wow” are the things that you’ve been steadily dreaming of for years, or ones that catch your eye even if you weren’t looking. “Buy it for life” stuff. Solid whole wood furniture, that teapot or coffee maker you’ve been dreaming of. A designer winter coat that only costs 20 times your old one. 🫣 On these you look at the price tag after; you want it, you get it, and if it breaks, you repair it. If it’s affordable, or if you find more than one of these every 1-3 years, consider yourself very lucky.

Nothing below “nice” is worth getting, and very few things between “nice” and “wow” are worth getting.

IMHO that’s a surefire way to burnout and self-doubts later on. My advice would almost be the opposite.

Never too late to change if what you’re doing isn’t working for you. Recognize when you’re about to kill your passion with expectations, and don’t do it. There is little to no cross-disciplinary knowledge that doesn’t come in useful, so don’t force yourself to be single-minded in your pursuits. What you’re learning matters surprisingly little, that you’re learning matters so much more.

But yea, don’t change major pursuits, like, every year. Probably depends on the person which advice they need. I definitely would have needed the latter.