Smart people learn from their mistakes, wise people learn from the mistakes of others.

Here to share my mistakes and learn from yours. I generally mean to engage with the best intentions, i apologize if i ever feel abrupt.

Never assume malicious what is equally likely ignorance/over exuberance. 💙

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  • It’s a reply of children because adults want to be angry with them, not find out why they did something, so people like you tell them to “just be responsible” etc without ever listening or offering support.

    So if an adult wants to yell at you, you say “i dont know” and let the angry windbag rant and rave. From the kid’s POV the adult/teacher don’t care about the reason (y’all usually don’t) you just want to have your ego bruised by a whole ass child dealing with whole ass life not about you being late.

    But “i dont know” is easier than “mom has a new boyfriend who keeps me up all night and i sleep late” you still probably wouldn’t listen or would then tell the child how they should handle the neglect of their education by their parents themselves, rather than show empathy and understanding.

    Because it’s about them listening to you, not about them being tiny people with no emotional regulation or rights trying to navigate a world where they are treated like little adults with zero power to escape abusive situations in school or at home of their own power, unlike you an adult who isnt the property of your parents.

    But yeah they’re just stupid little twerps looking to pull one over on you, right? They dont have complex lives outside of their time with you, they spend all day making sure how to make you feel disrespected by showing up late!

    And that is why you get “i dont know”.






  • RimWorld and modded Pokemon Scarlett.

    On one hand i am adoring Scarlett more than i expected… On the other, what I enjoy is almost exclusively from the mod, so I don’t know where to even talk about the fun i am having understanding I probably still wouldn’t want to purchase the full game, even with all the fun I am having, because the jank is only tolerable for me on an emulator with mods.

    RimWorld im really into a insectoids 2 mod run. About to try my hand at vanilla expanded genetics with Alpha Animals and Rimbees.

    Im vibrating for stardew valley mobile update. It’s been my favorite way to play and I wanna mod that, too. 😩





  • One thing that helped me was watching youtubers play the game doing weird challenges. When i saw what experts were able to do (and often times how many mistakes they could work around) i realized that the game is waaaay more “frozen in time” than any Harvest Moon game was.

    I think there’s legitimately only like one or two thing that can be missed at all, and it’s like one cutscene (that doesn’t cut you out from anything with the npc).

    For me the trick is the clock, I personally found it very intimidating! I found the best routine is to check the tv and see what your luck is for the day, check the calendar and see of i want to give someone a gift for their birthday, and then plan what i do for the day around that.

    I don’t personally take up the quests for the npcs because i don’t know the map well and it felt more stressful. They don’t seem to care! Chatting with them every day I can and giving them something they don’t hate for their birthdays, I was already getting random npcs up to three hearts not even trying.

    I could chat with you all day about it and this is already long enough, but i just have to remind myself the town is like a little special place just for me, almost completely frozen in time waiting to walk forward at my speed. ☺️



  • That giving of yourself and being discerning, you could make sure to find balanced relationships.

    People lie, to you and to themselves. Everyone wants to say they’re going to be their best person when times are tough. Reality can be quite different when the pain kicks in or dynamics change.

    But at this point after countless emergencies while being the one to stand up in the end to carry the sisyphean boulders, the truth is people are going to stand back in a panic when shit hits the fan and I’m going to be the one to figure things out.

    Best compromise I have settled on is surrounding myself with people who will help when I ask. It’s up to me to ask, plan, and keep all our heads above water, which is exausting, but they won’t blow me off.

    It’s the best I have been able to find of the available optional combination of traits in people i find attractive. 🙃





  • XaiwahBlue@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoMovies@lemmy.worldThe decline of sex in films
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    My question would be how much of this is actors no longer being completely subjected to the gross wims of the director. How many scenes had little to do with a story and felt more like the director using the opportunity to make pretty people obey them.

    We have intimacy directors now and what may also be happening is individuals having more say in production and in their bodily autonomy and I don’t see that as an issue particularly.

    Did random sex scenes really hit the level of art for you folks? Is pornography art the same way? 🤔 You know both are made for mass sale and consumption usually, the same way, much more than trying to make content to say anything.

    But um “it so bad we block the titties!” or whatever is popular to say. Even though i personally don’t remember many that added anything story related. Show me them bonding in a real way, sex doesn’t cement anything if you’ve ever had a cheating partner, but a real collection of moments spent together between them that shows understanding and sacrifice for each other can really have an impact.




  • Sure, how many people do you think you’d walk up to who are renting who would say that that’s their situation?

    Why are you talking about the exception not explicitly the problem that this is supposed to be trying to address?

    The issues are people who want to purchase cannot while people have more than one.

    Are you saying we prioritize those renters over homeowners? Is that better for the economy of the country to have people who are renting as opposed to people who own?

    Edit: also how does this work if a country cares about their citizens and absolutely any of their citizens are homeless while someone has extra and empty housing?