Echoing the other comment, I don’t think you’re being unreasonable or unfair.

It could also be worth seeking out relationship counseling/therapy for you and Cheddar. My perception from reading your story is that there could be a lot of communication gaps in your relationship(s). But it’s also clear that you’re caring and empathetic, so maybe you’re only missing some tools and strategies for properly harnessing your empathy.

Awesome! Thanks for the detailed update, and I’m glad it worked well for you!

Gice

How so?

Maybe sort by “date” instead of date & site?

Sounds like someone could use some more shut the fuck up Friday in their life 😘

I gotchu: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uqo5RYOp4nQ

Since others don’t seem to be having this specific issue, have you tried uninstalling and reinstalling Sync? Maybe some data on your phone got corrupted? 🤷

That’s an interesting idea. Do you write a blog or something where I can learn more?

Armchair General here. When they moved their aircraft further back, Russia greatly reduced their range and ordnance options while increasing the time Ukraine had to prepare for the strikes. Similarly, Russia splitting up their stockpiles to reduce strike effectiveness will have a significant impact on Russia’s already-strained logistics network. That’s the same reason why a relatively low volume of ATACMS has had such a substantial impact on their ability to wage war.

I’m not autistic, just ADHD, so please stop me if I’m invading a space where my commentary isn’t welcome.

You didn’t recognize that the girl in question was setting boundaries, which isn’t your fault, but I’ll get back to that in a minute. From her perspective, she made it clear that she wasn’t interested in you romantically, but she felt like subsequent actions still had romantic intent, like spending a lot of time near her and chatting. The way she was communicating with you wasn’t working, so she tried asking a friend to find an alternative resolution. I don’t want to get into the details of defining what “creepy” might mean to different people, but what’s important is that she felt unheard and wasn’t able to influence her environment to meet her needs. And that sucks for anyone.

Autism makes it hard to understand subtler forms of boundary setting, but you can totally learn how! I had a poor time understanding and respecting boundaries because throughout my whole childhood, my boundaries were never respected, nor were anyone’s boundaries in my childhood environment, so I never learned. And the things I implicitly learned where downright harmful. I may be projecting a bit, but I suspect you have a difficult time both setting and respecting boundaries because you haven’t been taught. Personally, I loved the book (or audiobook) Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Tawwab. It walks through a bunch of conversation examples regarding setting boundaries, which my autistic brother said is super helpful.

https://www.amazon.com/Set-Boundaries-Find-Peace-Reclaiming/dp/0593192095

Can you clarify what you mean by that? It sounds strangely gatekeepy to me, but maybe I’m misunderstanding

Where is your VPS located, and which Wire Guard server are you connecting to?

Kindness is also hard (and takes practice). I believe in both of our abilities to keep improving!

In your HAProxy config (like in this example), it’s checked from top to bottom. So your top-most frontend case should be the one that checks for the special keyword case. Then, if it doesn’t match the keyword, HAProxy will continue going down the list until it finds a frontend that does match. So your second frontend should match for everything, because if it doesn’t find a match, HAProxy shows an error

Cool, I think that first link will work for you. Then you can just ‘redirect’ for the no-keyword case: https://www.haproxy.com/documentation/haproxy-configuration-tutorials/http-redirects/

Remember, SSL/HTTPS does encrypt the URL path, so if the final website requires HTTPS, your proxy will need to have its certificate trusted by your clients

Maybe have two cases:
For the (matched keyword) case, something like this: https://serverfault.com/questions/729232/reg-exp-for-url-in-haproxy

For the (random routing) case, something like: https://www.haproxy.com/blog/haproxy-configuration-basics-load-balance-your-servers

I am a little confused on your question, though. It sounds like you maybe want 3 cases? Can you try wording it differently?

Generally unique request IDs have to be generated by the client that sends the request. If the client doesn’t generate an ID, you’re probably out of luck. That said, do you have information about the client you’re expecting to call your Squid cache? One unofficial, but common place for clients to put a request ID is in the header “X-Request-ID”

If you feel this enough to come to the comments, there’s a good chance you have undiagnosed ADHD (because you cope well enough, but “aren’t living up to your potential”). An aspect of ADHD is rejection sensitivity dysphoria, which also applies to “failures” like in this meme. Getting medicated at age 29 has been life changing for me

I’m confused, yet inspired