VenoraTheBarbarian

Jesus … two families, many many friends, just horribly killed on what was supposed to be a happy day.

Words are failing me, that’s just really fucking sad.

I was off Facebook for years, and was never a heavy user, but I had to get back on because the school my daughter goes to sends out so many notifications that way.

Facebook is very ingrained in how business and groups interact these days, what’s an individual to do? Disconnect from the world and miss important school notifications, among other things?

Plus the “stealing” isn’t just from people using the platform, it’s also in wages and benefits for employees. Why aren’t they getting a bigger share of those profits they worked to produce?

I think that’s going to be something personal to each of us. For me having medication gave me the give a damn to, for instance, make sure all dishes are handled before bed. Pre-meds I’d let them go “til the next day” far too often, with meds I was able to make a nightly rule that the sink has to be empty. When I had to go off meds that rule was still in my head, and I knew that if I didn’t keep the rule I’d undo the habit and leaving dishes in the sink wouldn’t feel “wrong” anymore. So I embraced that “dishes in the sink overnight is wrong” feeling and that carried me through til I got back on meds. (There was MUCH whining, both internal and external, lol, but they got done!)

In the last 8 months I’ve gone to bed with dishes in the sink probably less than 5 times. And that used to be a HUGE issue for me. But now the rule is engrained enough that I’ll plan my evening to make sure it gets done, even if that means doing it in chunks throughout the evening.

It’s been a slow process and I’m still not as put together as I’d like to be, and I probably never will be, but the meds are at least giving me a fighting chance.

I basically picked a couple things that felt really important (I brush my teeth every night now!) And found my internal motivation (I hate the way my mouth feels if I go to bed without brushing) , as well as the tricks to make sure I did the things (I’m not allowed to turn off the bathroom light til I brush my teeth, that way I can’t sleep cuz the light is on) and once those new rules are easy to follow I have the mental space to pick something new to add.

I wish I could be more helpful, but like I said, I feel like each of us have so many variables as to what works and what doesn’t. I’m also pretty sure I’m on the autism spectrum (I keep forgetting to bring it up with my Dr so I can get evaluated, lol) so god knows how that may affect things as far as habit building for me.

There’s a YouTube channel I really like, “How to ADHD” , she has great tips for habit building, and because she goes over so many ideas I was able to pick and choose the strategies that felt right for me.

Lol, those percentages are so accurate and it’s so sad 😂 Even medicated there’s a chance my brain just will. not. prioritize what we had discussed focusing on.

They help me push past my executive disfunction, most importantly, but also to stay focused and on task. They also kind of act as a ritual that starts a “Get it done” mindset, like taking my pill sets my intention for the day.

I had to go off my meds for a few months, and while my habits were harder to do, they weren’t impossible like they felt before I had built them. I was able to rely on habit muscle memory.

This was literally my husband’s objection to getting medicated 😂 It helped his anxiety, then he didn’t have the anxiety to get stuff done, so he thought he should just not be medicated cuz he was terrified he wouldn’t have the ability anymore without the anxiety.

Lucky for him I went through the same thing with my meds, but my answer was, “Use the medication to build good habits.” Which is the great wisdom I passed on to him (which I probably picked up from lurking ADHD spaces before my (and his) diagnosis).

You’re absolutely right, all this old timer “Kids these days are so soft…” B. S. When in reality the young just don’t wanna die or be maimed at 30.

Take care of your bodies, kids, it’s the only one you get. Don’t let corporations run you into the ground and then throw you in the trash. We need to demand better working conditions from our bosses and our elected officials.

Go on, do it, the theory ones anyway. Fuck Russia, fuck China, skip the propaganda for those two.

Learning something new can’t hurt you, though 😉

I just came home from work and my older dog PROMISES my husband forgot to feed him (husband is asleep so I can’t ask)

He’s a lucky boy, he almost never lies and my husband is known to be forgetful 😂 plus even I’d rather accidentally give him bonus dinner than send the old man off to bed hungry.

Unless Wawa has been doing that for 25+ years they stole it from ME.

Man, Wawa, haven’t heard that name in years, that brings back some memories.

Same, but apparently Italians hate us for that 🤷🏼‍♀️

It’s soo much easier to deal with tho!

With the best selection of the chicken, salad, and rice saved for that last bite.

When I’m feeling lazy after Thanksgiving it all just goes in a fucking bowl together (pre-chopped, if necessary) and I stir it up. Rolls stay out of course, I goop some Thanksgiving mush onto a chunk of roll 😁

Me, innocent: Oh cuz a central banker is pretty wealthy and powerful, and to only cover the crown would take a very tiny beanie 😂

Wait… Hitler mode? … 🤯

Wait what happened with Meghan Markle? Something recent?

100%, this looks unnervingly like Lindsay Lohan a decade or so ago… Wait, what does this say about poor Lindsay what she’s gonna look like at 80?

“Oh hey, remember (name)? They worked here like 6 months ago.”

No. No I do not remember that person. I probably didn’t learn their name when they were here, let alone retain that information 6 months later.

Now I just lie, cuz people do NOT like the implication that you’ll definitely forget their name in 6 months, too 😂 “Oh, yeah! That guy! How’s he doing these days?” While I desperately try to conjure a mental picture as they talk about That Guy. Usually the conversation ends with me still not having a clue.

I blame a lot on brain farts when the name I can’t come up with is someone who DOES still work here, “Fuck, why am I not coming up with this name that I 100% do, in fact, know??”

Really they should have been clued in to my horrible memory when I needed the phone number for our other store, that I call multiple times a DAY, to be written down near the phone because I can’t reliably remember it when I need it.

Gilmore Girls and KOTOR… Maybe Rory is Darth Revan, with Paris as Bastila. … I can see it.

I do not get how you’re so confused.

It’s not that he was “entitled” to money, it’s that money would have made taking his handle less of a dick move. Elon is a multi billionaire, he could have thrown a tens of thousands of dollars at this dude and had a good PR situation for his generosity, and not even noticed the dip in his bank account. Instead the story is that he’s an asshole who treats his users like shit if they have something he wants.

So here we are, calling him an asshole. How is that confusing?

I don’t often read the whole article, especially for something like a movie… But that was a really good read. I finished the whole thing.

Two beautiful men being really open and honest with each other, and the way they talk about people and their various struggles, and their own personal struggles, was refreshing and so wholesome. I wanted to hug them both.

It’s definitely worth the time to read the whole thing. I’m glad they did this chat. I haven’t seen The Whale, but now I really want to. It sounds really powerful and thoughtfully done. And Brendan Fraser deserves this comeback! Hopefully this movie puts him back in the game, I’ve missed him so much.

Damn. I don’t have any experience with this product, but I wanted to say I’m really sorry yours was so bad! And I’m sorry that when you were looking for help and advice you basically got a PR campaign for the very product that hurt you 🙄 that’s such crap!

I hope your scalp and hair heal okay in the end, and that someone who has experience drops by the thread with an answer for you.