• Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Honestly if you’re going out to eat with someone the phones should stay in pockets or bags

    If you’re making the effort to go out you should be there not on your phones

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      It depends. I spend so much time with my beat friend that we don’t always have things to talk about. Sometimes we get coffee and just sit around and read or look at shit on our phones.

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      Tbh I wouldn’t mind my kids looking at their phones… what does it matter if the games they play are analog or digital? I’m talking about the sitting in the restaurant kind of situation, where kids usually draw, read or do other stuff to entertain themselves.

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        It’s not a matter of analog or digital games but a matter of going out to eat with people you care about and sharing that time with them

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          Yeah but if your kids are young they see you every day, so… it’s different if you don’t see each other often.

          And my example was more meant for people who argue that they are fine with kids drawing when you’re out for food (which most younger kids do), but are annoyed when they use a phone to play.

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            Drawing can be more of group thing and can turn into conversation. Like asking them about what they’re drawing etc.

            Being on the phone is a more of a personal experience and has less opportunities for conversation and whatnot

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              That’s a subjective thing I would say. Many people on here would agree that playing a game can also turn into a conversation. If my kids were to play Pokemon or Zelda for example, I could engage with it quite well. It just depends if you know the franchise/culture, making it easier to resonate with.

              And tbh I didn’t particularly enjoy my family looking at my drawings when I was younger, cause I didn’t wanna get a comment about it.

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      I get the sentiment, but I have adhd and even with meds, it is sometimes a struggle to pay attention to someone, and I need something extra to do while holding a conversation at times. I need to have something to do with my hands so it’s a quiet phone or some clicking toy or pen, so take your pick.

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        I’ve got ADHD as well (mines inattentive)

        I find doodling to be a good addition, especially if I’m having lunch with fellow doodlers

        Because not only does it keep my hands busy so I stop bouncing my legs but it can also feed into conversations as well (once has lunch with a fellow doodler who we sketched stuff behind each other, it was really fun)

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      I have autism and probably ADHD, eating without something else to stimulate me is absolute misery and if you tell me to put away my phone i’m going to start avoiding eating with you.

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          Not in my experience, my boomer dad doesn’t exactly have much in commin with me, he wants to talk about sports and i want to talk about technology.

          We just both pull out our phones and appreciate the presence of the other, you don’t have to talk to people to be social.