• Madlaine@feddit.de
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    8 months ago

    I’d still be expected to listen when others speak

    I love chillin’ with other ADHD’ers: most understand if you zone out and tell them that.

    My colleagues also accept a “sry, that may sound a bit stupid; but my brain just cannot focus on this topic right now. I’ll come back to that later or tomorrow” (and as long as it’s occasional even a “sry, but my brain cannot do that at all. Can someone else please do this?”)

    cook without burning myself or the food

    I got a kitchen machine that does it for me. I can even forget my food without any chance of burning it. Worst case it’s cold.

    speak without repeating myself, speak in a way that makes sense to others

    Again, this is a problem I only have with neurotypicals; no problem along fellow neurodivergentd

    keep appointments

    Again just something that normal society expects. I have one single appointment per day I can’t miss (start-of-day-meeting). Everything else is movable most of the time. I don’t meet people at certain times, I meet them “that afternoon” and we will write each other when we’re ready

    read and comprehend instructions

    I know many neurotypicals that cannot do that.

    transport myself from place to place without injury or forgetting necessary items…

    Nothing to say against these points, actually…


    What I want to say is that most of the problems you listed are based on the expectations of neueotypicaldom. All of my friends and some of my colleagues are neurodivergent (most ADHD, some ASD, some both, I’m both) and honestly: As long as I don’t have to interact with the neurotypical world I don’t run in that much problems. It’s still not perfect, but way more manageable.