People go to these meetings just to play pool, and they act like the sex drive has been sucked out of them by some kind of alien parasite.
The point of a munch is to be a completely non-sexually, non-kink, social event. They’re also used by more underground groups to vet members and this is a fairly normal experience.
Tops act like bottoms, bottoms act like tops, everyone either has kids or is some kind of little.
If you’re looking for a high protocol master/slave situation, you’re not going to find it organically in a local scene. It honestly sounds a bit more like your attitude here might be stopping you from possibly getting to know people because this comes off as very aloof and judgemental. Not everyone fits nearly into a box, as I’m sure you can attest to.
I get you on the 🐻 though, they aren’t for me either. I just don’t like hairy men mostly 🤷
I hope you find what you’re looking for. Good luck.